ME time for girls .......

have u ever wondered how many women in India indulge in themselves..... how many of them can spend money on what they like... without considering how important it is for her family ...... how will it benifit her kids..... ???? how many women would consider a day in the spa , without feeling guilty that they wasted money on themselves........

as th trend is just begining in India that women ...... umm ... well feel liberated enough to pamper themselves -guilt free!!! its far from being popular ..... in most cases .... its considered immoral for a women to put her-self 1st ...... its considered the " bigheartedness" of Indian women ...... so I ask .. if a person thinks that pampering herself is right ..... does that make her a bad person ..... does it make her selfish .... ???

In a country where earning more than the spouse is something that is unthinkable .... i mean sure there are women ((very few of them ... may I add)) who earn more than their spouse and yet manage to maintain an ego-tiff free relationship ....... hats off to them !!!!!!!! n their spouse!!!

many of us speak about women liberation ..... and women empowerment ...... n i assume that many of us contribute towards it too ..... in their own ways ...... but come on ..... lets face it ...... its true that women of India have finally started making their move towards equality ...... but i must add...... we are far from achieving it .......

be it at work ... or at home...... women fight everyday to be treated equal ...... for people to respect their individuality ...... its sad that its so hard for most of our fellow country men to understand and let go of the ways of th past .....

one may argue that India is a growing country .. and all this will take its own sweet time...... but one should realize that India will progress only if its youth make a move towards it instead of running to work-places abroad to make quick money ((which i'll speak about in a new post :) )) ....... and half of the youth are women .... and honestly .... I love my country and all that is there ...... but I know for a fact that we can do waaay better if we learn to respect each other and start working together ... keeping our ego ((lets say .... male ego too )) aside......

to all th men out there...... I m not trying to put forth a feminist issue ...... actually i wouldnt call myslef a feminist at all ......m an equal-ist ... and m just speaking about what most of the women in India face ..... Including me .. even though I come from a metropolitan and an educated family ....

look around u ...... almost everywhere u see ... every women u know ..... is bound by these sometimes said and sometimes unsaid code of conduct ..... and somehow crawls its way into culture and tradition ..... culture and tradition helps us in being rooted and instills values like ((honesty , braveness, loving and caring nature, peace of mind etc )) ..... most of us have covered our ego issues as tradition ...... !! how long do we plan to mask it , n run away from facing the fact ???

every modern household ((almost )) faces fights and disputes over these issues...... every girl who wants to make it big .... has to fight ..... !!!! actually i'll re-phrase .... every girl who wants to have her own identity has to fight ... not just with th outside world .... with her family too .......

in a place where being a single women at 27 is considered a shame ...... where parents black-mail kids sayin " we raised u ...... and u cant give us the pleasure of seeing our grandchildren ....... " , where girls are actually brought up keeping only their marriage in mind ..... and parents consider it as their prime duty to get us "properly wed " ...... I'd just like to say ... that I think its about time that we demand to be treated as an individual .....and start raising children with the idea to make sure that they are good people...... kind hearted and self-less, who can stand up for themselves and fight for whats right ...... instead of day-dreaming about grand-children and cursing fate if things dont turn out as u had hoped it would .....

we being the youth of the country ..... need role models ..... and like every1 els .... we are most likely to look upto our family 1st ...... so I would finally like to conclude this post , even-though i can go on and on ...... n would like to say that eventhough we curse that its not us ..... but th society is like that ... things are like that and it will take ages to change ..... we have to understand that we are th society .. and if we change th society will change too ..... every small contribution will make its mark ...... girls please stand up for yourself!!! fear n so called moral obligations needn't hold us back ...... listen to the voice inside u and do what u think is right ..... not whats being told ....as the popular saying goes "charity begins at home " , one's contribution begins at home 2 ,tiny tiny changes that we can make in our day to day life goes a long way ... ((hey do i wound like a politician ..... i donnu........ but honestly .... this is a serious issue )) ......