Saturday, September 20, 2008

FUR !!!!! no thank u

well lemme begin with something that I always stood up for and recently did a survey on it 2 ... and after doing my research .... i found out the various alternatives available for fur ....

the list of cruelty is endless ... and the anti-fur coalition has taken a number of awareness creating steps.... including makin real life videos of how the animals are skinned and there is a song 2 ... by noa lembersky .. which is called skinned alive .. that measure was taken by PETA ..
there are artificial fur available in the market ... and for people who already own fur.. there are many organisations which take them as donations for the people in th colder regions ...

guess this video says a lot !!!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

ME time for girls .......

have u ever wondered how many women in India indulge in themselves..... how many of them can spend money on what they like... without considering how important it is for her family ...... how will it benifit her kids..... ???? how many women would consider a day in the spa , without feeling guilty that they wasted money on themselves........

as th trend is just begining in India that women ...... umm ... well feel liberated enough to pamper themselves -guilt free!!! its far from being popular ..... in most cases .... its considered immoral for a women to put her-self 1st ...... its considered the " bigheartedness" of Indian women ...... so I ask .. if a person thinks that pampering herself is right ..... does that make her a bad person ..... does it make her selfish .... ???

In a country where earning more than the spouse is something that is unthinkable .... i mean sure there are women ((very few of them ... may I add)) who earn more than their spouse and yet manage to maintain an ego-tiff free relationship ....... hats off to them !!!!!!!! n their spouse!!!

many of us speak about women liberation ..... and women empowerment ...... n i assume that many of us contribute towards it too ..... in their own ways ...... but come on ..... lets face it ...... its true that women of India have finally started making their move towards equality ...... but i must add...... we are far from achieving it .......

be it at work ... or at home...... women fight everyday to be treated equal ...... for people to respect their individuality ...... its sad that its so hard for most of our fellow country men to understand and let go of the ways of th past .....

one may argue that India is a growing country .. and all this will take its own sweet time...... but one should realize that India will progress only if its youth make a move towards it instead of running to work-places abroad to make quick money ((which i'll speak about in a new post :) )) ....... and half of the youth are women .... and honestly .... I love my country and all that is there ...... but I know for a fact that we can do waaay better if we learn to respect each other and start working together ... keeping our ego ((lets say .... male ego too )) aside......

to all th men out there...... I m not trying to put forth a feminist issue ...... actually i wouldnt call myslef a feminist at all ......m an equal-ist ... and m just speaking about what most of the women in India face ..... Including me .. even though I come from a metropolitan and an educated family ....

look around u ...... almost everywhere u see ... every women u know ..... is bound by these sometimes said and sometimes unsaid code of conduct ..... and somehow crawls its way into culture and tradition ..... culture and tradition helps us in being rooted and instills values like ((honesty , braveness, loving and caring nature, peace of mind etc )) ..... most of us have covered our ego issues as tradition ...... !! how long do we plan to mask it , n run away from facing the fact ???

every modern household ((almost )) faces fights and disputes over these issues...... every girl who wants to make it big .... has to fight ..... !!!! actually i'll re-phrase .... every girl who wants to have her own identity has to fight ... not just with th outside world .... with her family too .......

in a place where being a single women at 27 is considered a shame ...... where parents black-mail kids sayin " we raised u ...... and u cant give us the pleasure of seeing our grandchildren ....... " , where girls are actually brought up keeping only their marriage in mind ..... and parents consider it as their prime duty to get us "properly wed " ...... I'd just like to say ... that I think its about time that we demand to be treated as an individual .....and start raising children with the idea to make sure that they are good people...... kind hearted and self-less, who can stand up for themselves and fight for whats right ...... instead of day-dreaming about grand-children and cursing fate if things dont turn out as u had hoped it would .....

we being the youth of the country ..... need role models ..... and like every1 els .... we are most likely to look upto our family 1st ...... so I would finally like to conclude this post , even-though i can go on and on ...... n would like to say that eventhough we curse that its not us ..... but th society is like that ... things are like that and it will take ages to change ..... we have to understand that we are th society .. and if we change th society will change too ..... every small contribution will make its mark ...... girls please stand up for yourself!!! fear n so called moral obligations needn't hold us back ...... listen to the voice inside u and do what u think is right ..... not whats being told ....as the popular saying goes "charity begins at home " , one's contribution begins at home 2 ,tiny tiny changes that we can make in our day to day life goes a long way ... ((hey do i wound like a politician ..... i donnu........ but honestly .... this is a serious issue )) ......

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Gandhiji ....

i recently have come across a lot of people who are so darn against the sayings of this man ((i'd like to add great man ...... but dont wanna use adjectives )) i am not speaking on what he did 4 our country , n what he didnt.. ..cos honestly am not very sure about the facts of th freedom struggle.....

m speaking about the beliefs of this man ..... the inspiration that he is .... bringing such a huge country together which has such varied individuals ..leading such a diverse lot of people is a huge thing to achieve.... but sustaining the group when there was such a huge pressure to put them off..... n what was the strength that this lean, mal-nourished looking tiny bald-headed man possessed ... the strength of doing what he felt was right ..... to stand up for what he believes in.....

the enormous strength of tolerance... n yet standing up for one's right ...m spellbound ... such simplicity yet such strength .......

who said that taking crap n not giving back is a weakness.....i might be repeating myself.... but am very touched by the words n thoughts that no matter what one does to us.... that is no excuse for us to react .... that is not being sissy ...... :)

this post of mine is dedicated to the man who bent down ....who smiled back at people who insulted him ...... who could stand up for what he thought was right ... n i guess thats what matters in the end of the day .... doing what u feel is right.... satisfying ones own conscious ...

i have no conclusion for this post ... no inference ...i'd just like to say ... that m so inspired by these words...... n ....... guess thats it ..... :)

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Heart Vs Hate

A confused person writes again ............

The need to hate ??? the need to hurt ???

I fail to understand the need to hate anyone..... be it a person who hurt u a lot priorly ... I have come across people who tend to get very upset and curse the very fact that they met someone who could hurt them, .... they tend to curse themselves to have let their gaurd down ...

But what is so wrong about letting your gaurd down .... letting people enter your lives... I understand self protection ... but I find it very saddening that v dont trust our race ... that v need to be rude to certain people just to show them that -hey am a strong person , dont u mess wit me....

isnt this the actual sign of a weakness?????

Few years back i had come across a saying " Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you." by Vipun Sharma.

And I look back to find that these words have no meaning today, its either hurt or get hurt .... the race of survival...... "survival of the fittest " ......

Being nice to strangers is a taboo, and is looked with contempt .... smiling to a person u meet in the sub-way is inviting trouble???!!!!

And I agree that all my friends who have cautioned me of my "juvenile" ((as they tend to put it )) behavior, they are right but all am trying to say is its very very ,......... sad ....... that we have to live this way .... in constant fear.

the way we dress , the way we talk , the way we carry ourselves.... everything is subjected to what others might think about us.... that no one should get a wrong signal.... or misunderstand.......

I maybe completely wrong , maybe this is the art of survival ... but I think that in midst of surviving, we are forgetting what really counts...

Our true identity is to love without fear and insecurity. .......isnt it ??

I conclude by saying ....I refuse to hate people, I refuse to be rude to strangers ,even if they do happen to mis-judge it, even to those who have hurt me,

That doesnt mean I'll crib or whine....I ll move on if one hurts me.... I wont stand crap beyond my tolerance level... but that doesnt mean I'll hit back ..... or actually even think of .....

n to those who feel that being rude to people who bug u , being mean to people whom u dont care about is the way to survive..... ummmm......... actually I'm nobody to judge here .... so am not gonna....